Obliterated beyond recognition, that is the status of your heart.
You are currently broken and is in dire need of a cure. Don’t rush things, you are obviously not ready to enter into a new relationship. You will learn to move on soon, but before that happens, focus on healing yourself. You are still very vulnerable. Pretty soon, you will also become desperate. You’ll be hopeless to find a rebound love to recover from the affection you have lost.
To love another after a failed relationship is not wrong. It only becomes inappropriate when you enter into it even though you are completely aware that you have not yet moved on. This is absolutely unfair to the other person. You’ll be toying with his emotions.
Here are a few reasons why rebound love is definitely not for you.
You won’t let him love you. Being in a new relationship does not guarantee your recovery from the past. This will bring you to continue reminiscing of your Ex and worst is, you might even compare them. You will not see the current one as a ‘real’ person. He will just be your puppet to use in times of your emotional need. It will not be a healthy relationship.
Because you are broken inside, your focus would be on protecting yourself from heartaches. You will hold back. Too much emotional attachment would scare you. Your judgment will definitely be biased and you will not be able to give the other person the opportunity to love the ‘whole’ you, instead of the bitter version of you who’s still broken.
You won’t be able to reciprocate his feelings. You cannot give back what you do not have. You are out of love and right now, the least you can do is to give time alone and let yourself heal. Although your intention is not to hurt the person, you are already hurting him from the moment you let him expect that you’ll love him. Being single does not mean that you are unloved. It simply signifies your strength as a person, your independence. You’ve got to learn how to be happy without depending on another person.
You will only hurt yourself in the process. A relationship will always require an emotional investment. The moment you hurt the other person because you can’t reciprocate his feelings will also take its toll on you. You would pity yourself and regret your decision. Again, you have just stabbed your ‘already’ wounded heart. You are punishing yourself. Do your heart a favor, spare it from pain when you are still not ready.